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Okay so I've been kinda MIA lately. Partly because I've been working on some custom orders and new designs for the shop but mostly because I've been feeling guilty about spending so much time on my computer and phone. Now that I'm not working a full time job I thought I would have plenty of time to blog, sew, photograph, tweet, facebook, etc. and still spend lots of time loving on my girls. However, that's not the case. I'm finding that I'm not so great at managing my time and getting in all of the fun things with what needs to be done.
Don't get me wrong, I love this blog. I love that you people actually read this stuff. I love making pretty things. I love sharing them with you. But most of all, I love my little family and I'm not giving them what I should.
So...somehow I've got to figure out how to be present and enjoy the girls during the day, spend time with the hubs at night, and do what I love. I'm open to suggestions. In my head I had it worked out that I would get blog/shop stuff done during nap time. The problem is that my oldest doesn't nap and hasn't since she was 18 months old. So while my youngest is napping, my oldest wants me to spend time with her. Which makes complete sense and I hate telling her no so I'm not going to. I also thought about only working at night, but then I have no time with my husband. What to do? What to do?
I mean, I know it can be done. Lots of lovely ladies do it every day. But how? When I was working, I stayed up into the wee hours of the night blogging and sewing but I just don't feel like I should have to do that anymore. I'm considering dedicating a certain amount of time on a certain day(s) of the week as "work time," but I don't know when or how much. I do know however, that I am most motivated and productive of the morning.
So help a girl out and let me in on your little secrets of being a stay at home mom and running a small business and blog. Mmkay? Cause something's gotta give!
Oh, Autumn. I feel for you. Finding a new normal as a stay at home mom can be tough. I think a lot depends on YOU, your personality and how laid back or up tight you are. I'm totally type A, so our house is very scheduled (except for Mondays). My kids both do very well on a schedule, so we tend to stick with that. We make sure to include time spent playing with them (me), time they spend playing together (w/out me), chore time, time spent playing on their own (if they want, they're 5 yrs apart, so they usually want that), and quiet time (because my oldest is almost 9 and neither kid naps any more). This gives all of us some time together, apart, alone, etc. And, it allows me some time to get things done & some time to relax a little. My kids are obviously older than yours (4 & 9), but we've done this same thing since my 9 year old was 2.5 or so. If you ever need to chat, you can always email me. xoxo
ReplyDeleteI'm super type A also and I'm struggling to find what works for us. You're right...they do need to spend time playing without me and I'm thinking of doing some quiet time for my oldest even if she doesn't sleep. Thanks for taking time to respond :)
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